I grew up in the
darkness because there was always something wrong with the transformer in our
estate, on the boundary between Lagos and Ogun. This was 1992 when Sango-Ota
was still a quiet backwater. And the roads in Ojuore were all sand, and
crooked. But my brother had a guitar. And at night he would sit, with a lantern
at his feet, stroking strings at the edge of the kerosene-scented halo.
We sang his
songs. None of them ever played on the radio. But I heard them, even in my
dreams. It’s been many years now and sometimes I don’t remember that I still
remember. You know what I mean? Then I was lost in Rome, one day, trying to
find my way on the metro, surrounded by people some of who looked at me out of
the corners of their eyes. I never understand when people have souls but don’t
use them to see. Because I sat in a restaurant with a friend, but the waiter
would only speak to him, never to me. And when I walked into a Post Office, the
lady at the counter preferred dealing with the people that looked just like
her.
It makes you
paranoid, things like these. So, I too glanced out of the corners of my eyes, searching
for shadow racists. Till the name of my stop flashed past – Laurentina. And I
saw my brother again, in my mind’s eye, with the lamp at his feet. He wrote a
song once, you see; called it – Florentina – the name of a girl another brother
had fallen in love with. It is what brothers do for each other – put an arm
around your shoulder and whisper, ‘Be strong’; or give you words when you lack
them; find you when you need to be found. And, on that cluttered metro, I found
myself again, singing lines from my brother’s old song: ‘There’s something I
see in your eyes when you’re looking at me that tells me, that when I was gone
you were thinking of me. And you were not complete…’
Ah! I tell you
this, my friend, if you had walked over, and pulled out the empty chair at my
table, you would have discovered that I glanced out of the window one day and
fell in love; that I have pictures of my children on my phone and I can’t wait
to talk about them; that I prefer taking the bus because I like staring and
wondering where the people on the sidewalk are coming from, and where they are
going to; that I have never been shopping in Italy, but I have walked for miles
just to stand outside the Coliseum; that when it rains I sit on my verandah and
watch it; and there’s a question you carry within you, a question you will
never answer until you talk to me.
Because we are all
incomplete. Not because there’s something missing. It’s just that the Universe
is not an extension of our selves and no one has found its end yet. No. There
is always something more; something different. Try it. When next your heart (or
your conscience, or whatever it is on the inside of you that still remembers
the songs that made you dream once) dips its toes in new waters, follow it. Who
knows? You might just end up – perfect as you are already – a better person.
For it is the one who holds it that is held back by prejudice, never the one
against whom it is held. So, when I opened my eyes again on that metro, it was
all I saw – people, as broken and tired as I have been many evenings on my own way
home, looking back at me. And, this time, when someone caught my eye, I didn’t
ask why, I just smiled, until they looked away, or (imagine that) smiled back.
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